What Are You Looking For In A Future Partner?
Are you a highly functional Type B, with a history of spending time in other countries, a degree from a pre-approved list of US colleges, and a dress size below eight? You could be about to read about the man of your dreams! An anonymous surgeon from the US recently sent out a long email to men and women he’d met at a networking event, detailing the exact demands and requirements he had for a future partner. The extensive list goes into incredible detail and demonstrates to a hilarious degree just how picky some men and women can be about their future relationships.
Hayley Bystram, director of Bowes-Lyon Partnership, a dating agency for professionals, says, “This man’s list, though amusing and quite surprising, demonstrates the lengths that people will go to in order to find that one person they believe to be a perfect match for them. This anonymous man’s list goes into very specific detail, and whilst we may not all have such in-depth demands of our other halves, it is sure to get people thinking about the deal-breakers and ideal traits of their future partners.”
One of the demands on the lengthy list dictate that the surgeon’s dream woman would be ‘an 8 out of the 1-10 scale – 9-10 is actually bad as it comes with a lot of downsides’. Whilst this might be a fairly offensive way to categorise women, it is something many people can relate to, on a much smaller level. Everyone has physical traits that appeal to them in the opposite sex, whether it is the colour of their hair, their height or their eye colour. Knowing what you like in a man or a woman can help you to become relationship ready, and can help everyone searching for a date to narrow down the playing field.
‘Never does bad things because of values’ is another desired trait on the list. Of course, we all want our other half to be a good person with morals and values, but expecting them to never do a bad thing is unrealistic and will often lead to being disappointed. It is important, when trying to figure out what you want in a relationship, to be realistic about the prospects. Nobody is perfect, so there is no point in looking for perfection; focus instead on someone that would be perfect for you.
One of the other demands on the list is that the surgeon’s preferred woman must want children within the next year or two. It is sensible, when meeting someone new and establishing a relationship, to clarify these sorts of details. Getting a year into a relationship only to discover a significant other doesn’t believe in marriage or never wants children can leave both parties in a difficult situation. Making demands of a partner is never advised, but discussing future plans and what the next few years might hold for the two of you is absolutely recommended.