The One Thing That May Be Keeping You Single

The One Thing That May Be Keeping You Single


Do you judge people before they even open their mouths? Do you make knee-jerk assumptions and generalisations about the opposite sex? That may be the reason why you’re still single.


We recently stumbled upon this image of a store that wraps its books in paper and merely writes a short description on the front as well as the genre – so as not to ‘judge a book by its cover’. We thought it was a brilliant idea, and that it should be a lesson applied to dating too.

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How quickly are you to judge when it comes to meeting new people? How fast do you decide that someone is not for you?


If it literally takes you a millisecond to ‘know’,  I encourage you to be a bit more open when it comes to finding love. I guarantee you’ll have much more success if you actually give people a chance.


Of course attraction is an important element of a relationship, but at least in my own experience and expertise within this industry, personality is what truly makes someone attractive (or unattractive). And there’s no way of knowing the whole story at first glance.


In fact, we find that some of our most successful matches are the ones where the couples weren’t 100% sure that they were going to get on. Luckily, they took our advice and met for a drink anyway, and the rest is history!


So for the rest of the year, my challenge is for you to work on being more open when it comes to dating. Think about it – you wouldn’t want someone judging you straight away, would you? Try to treat everyone you meet with the same respect and openness.


Give your relationships the time to develop into something instead of assuming straight away that someone isn’t at your level, has a jealous nature or isn’t intelligent or pretty enough for you. (Or at least give it until the second date!)


And if you want a little help along the way, get in touch with us here. We’d love to meet you!

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