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Reasons to Relax on a First Date

Reasons to Relax on a First Date

When a first date is approaching, it can be too easy to become preoccupied with all of the reasons to be nervous, especially when the date is with someone entirely new. Whether it is meeting someone through an exclusive introduction agency, or a blind date with a friend of a friend, worrying about giving a good first impression or avoiding awkward silence can make a date start to feel like a cause for dread rather than excitement. In actual fact, there are a multitude of reasons to relax on a first date, and all of them have the effect of helping the date to go more smoothly than if both parties were nervous wrecks.

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Hayley Bystram, Director of Bowes-Lyon Partnership, the elite dating agency for professionals, says, “The thought of a first date can be an incredibly nerve-wracking one; it can be tempting to get sucked into a spiral of panic and worry about what your date will think of you. In reality, there are a myriad of reasons why dating should be a relaxing experience that both parties can enjoy. The irony is that the more you relax, the more enjoyable the date will be!”

One of the first things to remember is that you are not the only being judged. Rather than panicking about what their date will think of them, people on first dates. It can be hard, especially for those coming out of relationships, to see a first date as anything but an audition for someone else, when in reality, both parties are simply testing the water. There was a famous movie quote that said, “This is what single people do. They try other people on and see how they fit.” Taking this mantra into a first date can help reduce nerves and turn the occasion from a reason to fret into a reason to have fun.


Many people become nervous about filling up hours of conversation over a dinner table or in a bar for their first date. This can be solved by arranging a quick, breezy date which doesn’t require hours of deep conversation. Keep it casual for the first date; grab a quick bite during a lunch hour at work, or arrange to have brunch one weekend morning, stipulating that you have plans at a certain time so the date cannot overrun. This takes off the pressure to keep a flow of conversation going for hours.
ould spend more time establishing what they think of their date. It can be hard, especially for those coming out of relationships, to see a first date as anything but an audition for someone else, when in reality, both parties are simply testing the water. There was a famous movie quote that said, “This is what single people do. They try other people on and see how they fit.” Taking this mantra into a first date can help reduce nerves and turn the occasion from a reason to fret into a reason to have fun.

The myth of the awkward silence is also one which creates nerves where there needn’t be. It is incredibly simple to fill an hour or two with chatty small talk, whether it is about hometowns or hobbies. Conversation doesn’t need to reach future commitment or family secrets right away on the first date; keep it light and casual, and if all else fails, there’s always the weather!

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