Dating Tips For Single Women… From 1938!
An article appeared on the retro-celebration site Retronaut this week, with a whole range of dating tips for single women… from 1938! The 75-year old dating guide may have contained some rather dated tips and turns of phrase, but does the advice still resonate today?
Hayley Bystram, director of elite dating agency Bowes-Lyon Partnership, says, “This guide is decades old, and is equal parts hilarious and insightful. The language might be slightly old-fashioned, but there are some tips which can still be made relevant to the dating public of 2013.”
One of the first tips is something which has found great relevance in modern life. “Don’t sit in awkward positions – and never look bored, even if you are.” There are countless words of wisdom about the right posture when on a date, and even more information about sending the right signals through body language. This succinct piece of advice sums it all up; sit comfortably and don’t look too awkward. And always try to be polite. Even if the date is a disaster and you know within seconds that you will not be meeting this person again, have some manners and see out the evening with a pleasant smile and a string of conversation starters.
The next tip will have feminists everywhere red with rage: “Don’t talk about clothes or try to describe your new gown to a man. Please and flatter your date by talking about the things he wants to talk about.” Whilst the second half of this piece of advice can be deemed highly sexist and offensive, there is a certain element of truth in the first part. When on a date, getting stuck on one conversation topic, especially one that is only of interest to one party, could spell the end for the two parties as a couple. Finding the perfect match is about finding that middle ground where you can discuss hobbies without going off on a tangent, and expressing polite interest, even in things that don’t interest you. If fashion is a passion, bring it up, by all means, but don’t smother him with information about seams and beads in the first half hour of your meeting. The same goes for men; if you are already on the dessert course and he is still describing the cricket season in detail, ask for the bill!
“Don’t be sentimental” is another of the tips. The advice goes on to suggest that men don’t like women who are open about their feelings, but for those who want to be in a healthy and successful relationship, being able to speak about emotions is key. Whilst it may not be ideal small talk on a first date with someone, being able to open up about emotional boundaries is a signal that you are truly relationship ready, and being ‘sentimental’ should never be off the table with someone you are looking to be in a long-term relationship with.