Why work with a Professional Matchmaker?
It always amazes me how many people are interested and intrigued by my job, when I tell them I am a matchmaker. Instantly, everyone has a single friend they want to tell me about, who they can’t believe hasn’t met the right partner yet. Many people also think it’s all terribly glamourous and we spend out time having champagne lunches - I can tell you it’s not like that at all! But the question I am most asked is:
“Why does someone join a matchmaking agency”
Below are some of the most common reasons why our members join us:
Keyboard with a button to click for love
Confidentiality
This is one of the main reasons cited when people join Bowes-Lyon Partnership. Many of our members are professionals and are known in their fields of expertise or run their own companies, and they simply want their private life to remain private! They would prefer that their colleagues, or employees, don’t see their photos and profiles on a dating app - and whilst the online algorithms are sophisticated, there is always the possibility of an awkward match that you know! Whilst younger generations have grown-up feeling comfortable sharing their lives on the internet many of our slightly older members recoil at the idea, and a matchmaking service gives them the opportunity to date and meet new people, without compromising their confidentiality.
Time
Dating is time-consuming. With anything in life, if you want to get a result then time, effort and consistency is required. The nature of our members is that they are fairly ‘time-poor’ with the demands of their careers/business travel and their commitments and responsibilities, and their personal life can fall to the bottom of the priority list. By effectively ‘outsourcing’ this responsibility to us – we save our members time in ensuring that we do the leg-work of sourcing compatible matches, doing the appropriate background and criteria checks, and presenting the matches for consideration, so all our member has to do it turn up to meet the carefully selected and compatible potential partner!
Attractive couple having lunch
3. Platform of Honesty:
We have all heard stories about scouring the online apps, finding someone to connect with, investing time and effort to message back and forth and arrange a date, only to experience the feeling of despondency of that person not being who they say they are, or, even worse….being ghosted! We operate from a platform of honesty so, if we say you are meeting a 45-year old gentleman who is 6ft tall, then that is who you will meet!
Not someone who is 10 years older, 5 inches shorter and still married!
4. Step outside of your circle
As we get older our social circles can tend to get smaller and your propensity to meet new people becomes fewer and further between. Some of our members may live in areas, where everyone knows everyone, and their friendship groups are made up of married couples, and they have little opportunity to meet new, like-minded single people. Joining an agency enables you to meet people outside of your usual circle, and people that you just wouldn’t cross paths with in your everyday life and hugely increases your pool of potential.
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5. The Covid effect
I know it was years ago but….people just aren’t interacting as much anymore! It’s almost like our social skills have been reduced and we don’t know how to strike up conversation with new people! Members often report that, should they see someone they might be interested in (in a social situation, on their daily travels etc) then they would feel uncomfortable approaching them and interacting.
We find it uncanny how many of our members should have met each other in their everyday lives; they are members of the same clubs, many frequent the same gyms, they are all at similar resorts during the ski season….but they’re still not meeting one another! At Bowes-Lyon we bridge that communication gap and connect people, who really should be meeting each other in their everyday lives, but modern society seems to be an obstacle to it happening!
If your priority and desire is to meet someone, to share and enhance your life, then don’t wait to do it. Take action, be proactive and, if any of the reasons above are relatable to you or you would like some help or guidance in meeting a partner, then do give us a call and speak to one of our friendly matchmakers and we would be delighted to see if we can assist in your search.
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