The A-Z of Dating Terms: 2025 Edition
Dating may have gone digital, but the language of love continues to evolve in ways that reflect how we connect, communicate, and court. At Bowes-Lyon Partnership, we understand the value of tradition, but we also keep a watchful eye on how the dating landscape is shifting.
Here is our updated A to Z of dating terms, a guide to help you stay in the know, whether you are newly single or simply curious.
A - Algorithm Match
A pairing generated by a dating app based on shared interests or behaviours. At Bowes-Lyon, we prefer something more human led, but it is a reality in modern dating.
B - Benching
Keeping someone as a "maybe" rather than committing or cutting ties. A soft form of rejection dressed as indecision.
C - Cushioning
Subtly lining up alternatives "just in case" a relationship does not work out. Often mistaken as flirting, but usually a sign of emotional hedging.
D - Define the Relationship
That essential conversation where two people agree on the nature of their connection, whether it is casual, exclusive, or long term.
E - Emotional Labour
The unseen effort involved in planning dates, maintaining communication, and resolving conflicts. Healthy relationships share the load.
F - Fizzling
A slow and uncertain fade out, where contact gradually dwindles rather than ending abruptly.
G - Ghosting
Suddenly disappearing from someone’s life with no explanation. As common as it is confusing, and rarely justified.
H - Haunting
When someone who ghosted you continues to interact with your social media, watching your stories or liking posts without making contact.
I - In Real Life (IRL)
Meeting someone face to face, especially after initially connecting online. A crucial step that many overlook in the digital age.
J - Just Talking
A vague label often used when people are communicating frequently but have yet to clarify intentions.
K - Kittenfishing
Presenting a slightly idealised version of oneself online, often using flattering photos or minor exaggerations.
L - Love Bombing
An intense wave of attention and affection early on, which may feel flattering but can sometimes signal control or manipulation.
M - Managing Expectations
Being upfront and honest about what you are looking for. A respectful practice that avoids future misunderstandings.
N - New Relationship Energy
That early excitement and infatuation that accompanies a new connection. Glorious while it lasts, but often not the full picture.
O - Orbiting
Staying in someone’s digital space after cutting contact. More confusing than comforting.
P - Paperclipping
Popping back into someone's life with no intention of anything serious, just to keep the option open.
Q - Quiet Luxury Dating
Understated, elegant experiences where the focus is on genuine connection over flashy venues or grand gestures.
R - Red Flag
A warning sign that something may not be quite right. In modern dating, people are becoming more attuned to these early cues.
S - Stashing
When one partner keeps the other out of sight, not introducing them to friends or family, nor acknowledging the relationship publicly.
T - Textlationship
A warning sign that something may not be quite right. In modern dating, people are becoming more attuned to these early cues.
U - Uncuffing
The end of a seasonal relationship (often after winter). Not always dramatic, but a gentle move toward independence.
V - Vibe Check
A quick emotional read on whether the energy or values between two people align. Intuition still plays a vital role in chemistry.
W - Window Shopping
Browsing dating apps with no intention to match or meet anyone, usually done out of boredom or curiosity.
X - X Factor
That hard to define spark or attraction that sets someone apart from the rest. Often what makes a date unforgettable.
Y - Yellow Flag
Not a deal breaker, but a subtle signal that something may require attention or communication.
Z - Zoom Drift
The feeling of distance or disconnect that can happen in video based dating or long-distance relationships.
At Bowes-Lyon Partnership, we combine decades of matchmaking expertise with an understanding of today’s dating nuances. While terminology changes, the essence of finding love remains beautifully constant: mutual respect, shared values, and sincere intention.
If you are navigating modern romance and seeking something with depth, elegance, and lasting promise, we are here to help.