The A-Z of Dating Terms: 2025 Edition

Dating may have gone digital, but the language of love continues to evolve in ways that reflect how we connect, communicate, and court. At Bowes-Lyon Partnership, we understand the value of tradition, but we also keep a watchful eye on how the dating landscape is shifting.

Here is our updated A to Z of dating terms, a guide to help you stay in the know, whether you are newly single or simply curious.

A - Algorithm Match

A pairing generated by a dating app based on shared interests or behaviours. At Bowes-Lyon, we prefer something more human led, but it is a reality in modern dating.

B - Benching

Keeping someone as a "maybe" rather than committing or cutting ties. A soft form of rejection dressed as indecision.

C - Cushioning

Subtly lining up alternatives "just in case" a relationship does not work out. Often mistaken as flirting, but usually a sign of emotional hedging.

D - Define the Relationship

That essential conversation where two people agree on the nature of their connection, whether it is casual, exclusive, or long term.

E - Emotional Labour

The unseen effort involved in planning dates, maintaining communication, and resolving conflicts. Healthy relationships share the load.

F - Fizzling

A slow and uncertain fade out, where contact gradually dwindles rather than ending abruptly.

G - Ghosting

Suddenly disappearing from someone’s life with no explanation. As common as it is confusing, and rarely justified.

H - Haunting

When someone who ghosted you continues to interact with your social media, watching your stories or liking posts without making contact.

I - In Real Life (IRL)

Meeting someone face to face, especially after initially connecting online. A crucial step that many overlook in the digital age.

J - Just Talking

A vague label often used when people are communicating frequently but have yet to clarify intentions.

K - Kittenfishing

Presenting a slightly idealised version of oneself online, often using flattering photos or minor exaggerations.

L - Love Bombing

An intense wave of attention and affection early on, which may feel flattering but can sometimes signal control or manipulation.

M - Managing Expectations

Being upfront and honest about what you are looking for. A respectful practice that avoids future misunderstandings.

N - New Relationship Energy

That early excitement and infatuation that accompanies a new connection. Glorious while it lasts, but often not the full picture.

O - Orbiting

Staying in someone’s digital space after cutting contact. More confusing than comforting.

P - Paperclipping

Popping back into someone's life with no intention of anything serious, just to keep the option open.

Q - Quiet Luxury Dating

Understated, elegant experiences where the focus is on genuine connection over flashy venues or grand gestures.

R - Red Flag

A warning sign that something may not be quite right. In modern dating, people are becoming more attuned to these early cues.

S - Stashing

When one partner keeps the other out of sight, not introducing them to friends or family, nor acknowledging the relationship publicly.

T - Textlationship

A warning sign that something may not be quite right. In modern dating, people are becoming more attuned to these early cues.

U - Uncuffing

The end of a seasonal relationship (often after winter). Not always dramatic, but a gentle move toward independence.

V - Vibe Check

A quick emotional read on whether the energy or values between two people align. Intuition still plays a vital role in chemistry.

W - Window Shopping

Browsing dating apps with no intention to match or meet anyone, usually done out of boredom or curiosity.

X - X Factor

That hard to define spark or attraction that sets someone apart from the rest. Often what makes a date unforgettable.

Y - Yellow Flag

Not a deal breaker, but a subtle signal that something may require attention or communication.

Z - Zoom Drift

The feeling of distance or disconnect that can happen in video based dating or long-distance relationships.

At Bowes-Lyon Partnership, we combine decades of matchmaking expertise with an understanding of today’s dating nuances. While terminology changes, the essence of finding love remains beautifully constant: mutual respect, shared values, and sincere intention.

If you are navigating modern romance and seeking something with depth, elegance, and lasting promise, we are here to help.

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