What’s One Dating Mistake That People Often Make?
As you can imagine, we get asked this question all the time, and unfortunately, you may not like my answer! To put it simply, flexibility is a must when it comes to love, dating, and long-term relationships. Period. Many people start their search for true love and expect to find someone who fits neatly into their lives. They look for a partner who rings at the right time, always texts back promptly, and is available at the drop of the hat. I’m sorry to tell you, that’s not reality, and trust me, you won’t get anywhere in the dating process if you demand people fit in with your lifestyle 100%.
Let’s look at the scenario at hand: when you meet someone for the first time, they probably already have a job that they are dedicated to, bills to pay, family and friends to spend time with, an exercise routine (or at least some sort of health regime), a house to take care of, and hobbies that take up some of their free time. To put it simply, they already have a full life. Although this doesn’t mean that they won’t make space for you in that life, it does mean that you cannot expect them to give up what has been important in the years, days, and minutes before you existed.
If you want to maintain a successful relationship, flexibility is a must. Unless that person is your clone (which I’m guessing he/she isn’t) you will not see things eye to eye all the time or live your life in the exact same way. Being flexible means you are able to adapt, do things differently, and know that you’ll still get your needs met, even if that means the apple of your eye doesn’t return your call until later on in the day. Of course I am not suggesting that you let your someone take advantage of your good nature or precious free time, but leave room for work meetings, unexpected illnesses, kids, and even a mood swing to get in the way from time to time and try not to overanalyse. To put it simply, don’t sweat the small stuff.